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| Therapies | Difficult Relationships and Recovery |
| Voice
Dialogue
Information at Voice Dialogue International -- http://www.delos-inc.com/. Imago Therapy Information at Getting the Love You Want -- http://gettingtheloveyouwant.com/. EFT. Emotionally Focused Therapy Information at The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy TM (ICEEFT) -- http://www.iceeft.com/home.htm. EMDR, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Information at EMDR International Association (EMDRIA) -- http://www.emdria.org/ |
Dead-End Lovers |
| Improving Relationships | |
| Getting the Love
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Stop Walking on Eggshells:
Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality
Disorder Paul Mason and Randi Kreger's self-help guide that enables family members and friends of individuals with borderline personality disorder (BPD) understand this self-destructive disorder and learn what they can do to get off the emotional roller coasters and take care of themselves.  |
| How to Improve Your
Marriage Without Talking About It Pat Love's How to Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It teaches couples how to get closer by recognizing the differences between communications and connection, and the differences in the needs of men and women. Rich in stories of couples who have turned their marriages around, and full of practical advice about the behaviors that make and break marriages.  |
I Hate You, Don't Leave Me
Jerold J. Kreisman and Hal Strauss' book about borderline personality disorder describes the behavior of people who suffer from it. Symptoms include a weak sense of identity and a fear of abandonment; rapid mood swings, impulsive self-destructiveness and violent outbursts. Persons with borderline personality disorder frequently have family backgrounds marked by alcoholism, child abuse or emotional distance.  |
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Me Tight Sue. Johnson's recent book for couples and individuals seeking more information about the theory and practice of Emotionally Focused Therapy. More information about the book is available at http://www.holdmetight.net/. . 
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Out of The Shadows This work, the first to describe sexual addiction, is still the standard for recognizing and overcoming this destructive behavior. With insight and sensitivity, Dr. Patrick Carnes outlines how to identify a sexual addict, recognize the way others may unwittingly become complicit or codependent, and change the patterns that support the addiction. 
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| Codependence | |
| Facing Codependence Pia Mellody, Andrea Wells Miller and J. Keith Miller's book "claims the realm of parenting for its vantage point. The authors believe that codependents must heal themselves in order not to repeat the "less than nurturing" behaviors of their own addicted or emotionally dysfunctional parents."  |
Mending a Shattered Heart Thousands of unsuspecting people wake up every day to discover their loved one, the one person that they are supposed to trust completely, has been living a life of lies and deceit because they suffer from a disease - a disease called sex addiction. Stefanie Carnes brings together several authors to guide the reader through an assortment of topics like, How Do I Handle This? and, What Do I Tell the Kids?  |
| Codependent No More Melody Beattie's Codependent No More introduced the word "codependent" to the wider world. The term "'codependent" originated as a term to describe people who use relationships with others as their sole source of value and identity. These people often end up in relationships with either drug addicted or alcohol addicted spouses or lovers. In the book, Beattie explains that a codependent is a person who believes their happiness is derived from other people or one person in particular, and eventually the codependent becomes obsessed with controlling the behavior of the people/person that they believe is making them happy.  |
Paths to Recovery Al-Anon's book for anyone who's ready to get down and do Al-Anon work. This is a really good book to help a person learn to focus more on themselves and their lives and learn to detach from the alcoholics in their lives with love. 
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| Healing the Shame That Binds Us In an emotionally revealing way, John Bradshaw shows us how toxic shame is the core problem in our compulsions, co-dependencies, addictions, and the drive to superachieve, resulting in the breakdown in the family system and our inability to go forward with our lives.  |
Adult Children of Alcoholics Janet Woititz's book is for those who don't know why their lives are a mess, why they keep getting into abusive relationships, why they don't have fun like other people, who feel inferior and worthless and have guessed (often incorrectly) at what normal is. Advice on how to let go of acrippling past and rediscover the future. 
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| Children of the Self-Absorbed
Nina W. Brown's Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grownup's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents describes how immature, self-absorbed parents make their own children responsible for their physical and emotional well-being, expect admiration and constant attention, and react with criticism and blame when their needs go unmet. Through self-exploration exercises and protective and coping strategies, Brown helps readers work toward developing a "healthy narcissism" by identifying destructive patterns their parents may have had, evaluating attitudes and behaviors that may be hampering their own adult relationships, dealing with self-doubt and other negative feelings, and piecing together a more integrated sense of self. 
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The Recovery Book |
